Life & Career Success Starts in Your Mind
Did all your wishes, dreams and goals come through in 2020?
It's a rhetorical question, right? I know for most of you (us), the answer is no.
Often we know what it takes to make transformational life changes, but we don't take action because of our beliefs.
In one of my coaching sessions this week, I helped a client to recognize where her beliefs were actually hindering her career growth efforts.
She had already made up in her mind why she WOULD not succeed in her job search before even making one step forward.
We often forget the powerful role our beliefs and mindset play in creating what we want.
Sure, we can visualize, affirm, set goals, and work hard — but if we don’t believe something is possible, then it will never materialize in our lives.
Let’s take a look at what most of us do when we decide we want something. We first express a desire or set a goal. I want to lose weight or I want to make more money or I want a new job.
Then, before we know it, we start coming up with reasons why it’s not possible.
I don’t have time to exercise.
My company isn’t giving pay raises this year.
I can’t afford to change careers.
It’s important to understand that to us, our beliefs are FACTS. We have convinced ourselves that those facts are “truth.”
However, think for a moment about all the other “facts” that ended up not being true.
We used to believe the earth was flat. We used to believe the sun revolved around the earth. We used to believe that space travel was impossible.
None of these things are “true” now, are they?
Think about some of the truths you have made about your own life.
I’ll never have a lot of money.
I’m too old to change careers.
I’m not talented, I don’t have any marketable skills.
I’ll never make it to the interview phase.
Everything always goes wrong for me.
I have the worst luck of anyone I know.
I can’t do that.
I don’t have what it takes to be successful.
Are they really true?
If you change these “facts” in your own mind, what might happen?
I can tell you what can happen. You might have a lot more money. You might recognize your own potential, you might experience better outcomes in your personal and professional life.
Heck, you may even reach the level of success you dream about. Sounds good, doesn’t it?
But how? How do we change these truths in our own minds?
Well, recently I’ve been playing a little game with myself called, “Why It’s Possible.”
HERE'S HOW IT WORKS:
We state a desire:
I want to lose weight.
Naturally, limiting beliefs come up:
Diets don’t work for me, I don’t have time to exercise.
We add new empowering ideas to reinforce "Why It's Possible":
I don’t have to diet to lose weight, I can just moderate how much I eat. I can fit more activity into my routine by parking my car farther away or taking the stairs instead of the elevator.
Here's another example:
We state a desire:
I want a higher paying job
My company isn’t giving pay raises this year. I don’t have the energy to get another job. I am not qualified for a top leadership job.
Why It's Possible:
I am qualified to earn more money in so many ways, it doesn’t have to be through my job. Money can come to me through an inheritance, unexpected bonuses, or I can even start a fun part-time business!
Take it a step further:
There are many companies who can benefit from my skills and expertise, but they don’t know I exist. I can make the effort to see what is available to me right now.
Of course, simply replacing words won't magically change things in your life or your career. The "Why It's Possible" must be valid and believable to you.
Use valid, evidence-based facts about yourself and your personal situation. Because if you don't believe in them, your limiting beliefs will always take over.
Reinforcement and repetition are important as well.
For smaller beliefs, you might notice quick changes, but for your big, stretch goals, you might need to keep playing the “Why It’s Possible” game over and over.
As you keep reinforcing your new beliefs and you begin to believe that they really are possible, more and more doors will begin opening for you.
That’s what’s been happening in my own life since I began playing this little game.